I was relating my boda conversation about the non-dowry paying Europeans to one of my friends the other day, and she said that in fact her boda guy had asked her the exact same question about paying dowry in the US.
However, unlike my boda guy, her boda guy had a very different reaction when he found out that they did not pay dowry in the U.S. He exclaimed:
Well then I will have to marry an American!
He had just found the loophole in the system.